We knew that we loved one another as friends, and it didn’t take long to realize we were ready to love one another for the long haul. When you love another person in the biblical sense, that love 1) honors God and 2) honors that person even if that relationship eventually ends.
We were ready to commit to a biblical, covenant love. And because of the biblical definition of love, it is possible to love more than one person during your lifetime.
Though our eight-day “I love you” would be too soon for other couples, it was guided by the following principles.
Wherever you’re at in your own relationship, use these same principles to guide the timing of those three little words.
Then one evening at the beach I had her in my arms in the water watching the sun go down. Then I felt a warm sensation all over my body and I just had to blurt it out.
She said it right back and we had a very passionate kiss. No regrets."Rebecca Jane Stokes is a sex, humor and lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman.
Most of us even say them to our friends, our parents, our siblings, heck, even to our co-workers, our pets, and that one dude who makes the best bacon, egg, and cheese sandwich in the neighborhood.
But for some people, making such a statement within the context of a new-ish romantic relationship can not only be scary, but it can tricky!
When is "too soon" to tell someone how you feel about them? Is it a good thing or a devastating thing to be the first person who says it? We had been saying "I like you" or "I really like you" but it wasn't enough.
They also felt confessions were more honest if said before sex.
This was especially true for men with short-term relationship goals (people more interested in short-term sexual relationships rather than commitment).