This is maybe seen as an endearingly awkward comment, but it can come off badly.
“You probably don’t drink as much as you think, and discussing topics like this even as a joke can come across wrong if someone doesn’t know you yet,” Candice A explains.
“Newsflash: We are all humans,” says Michelle G, a certified matchmaker and dating coach.
If someone wants you to know about their race or religion, they’ll tell you.
“Anytime you bring up sex early in a relationship it can be seen as intrusive or as if that’s the person’s only interest,” notes Dr.
Venessa Marie Perry, founder and chief relationship strategist at The Love Write.
“First dates should be all about getting to know someone on a lighter note,” says Lisa Ronis, a matchmaker. I have clients who are caught between a rock and a hard place because they don’t want to waste time, but I advise them to wait until they know the person awhile before asking.
And so many times, the topic comes up organically.” It might seem like asking this up front could save you some time, but it can backfire.
” asks Jessica Elizabeth Opert, a dating and love coach.“This always makes the person asking it look desperate, foolish, and in a rush, while annoying or stressing out the person to whom it is asked,” says Bregman.To be fair, it is pretty weighty question lay on someone you just met. Whether it’s their apartment, watch, or a clearly luxe handbag—it’s none of your business.“They don’t know you, so they don’t know the jokes from the truth.” Save these types of comments for when you’ve spent a little more time together.No matter how curious you are, “do not ask about previous relationships, especially not about the dynamics of their divorce or recent breakup,” advises Sedacca.“It’s just plain tacky, and also will make you appear shallow and only concerned with money,” says Bonnie Winston, celebrity matchmaker and relationship expert.“You can compliment something without wanting to qualify it with a price.” Even when you’re a relationship, if you have separate finances you shouldn’t feel obligated to tell your partner the price of something you spend your own money on—in fact, it’s one of the 13 secrets you should always keep from your partner.“This question comes off as though you’re trying to find out what the other person likes so you can either pretend to be that or decide immediately if they are worth your time,” says Celeste Headlee, a radio host, journalist, and author of “The subject of parents can strike a chord with people and make them uncomfortable,” says Perry.“This is particularly true if they aren’t on good terms or don’t have parents.There are usually two kinds of first date: The ones that flow magically—where the time passes so effortlessly that the restaurant has to remind you that they’re closing—and the ones that are… Obviously, the first type of initial meeting is ideal, but a less graceful first encounter doesn’t necessarily mean all hope is lost.In fact, along as everything goes fairly well, there’s potential for a second date, which could potentially turn into a more serious connection.