If you are experienced in online dating you will recognise the need for establishing this code of online dating etiquette. You will be dealing with real people with real feelings Engage in cyber searching only if you are seriously searching for a friend or partner. It is only when you wish to contact a potential candidate that a subscription fee is required.
Test drive a few, up to the point of having to subscribe, before you settle for one or more to ‘subscribe’ to.
You will see every interaction in the worst possible light: “she doesn’t like me, she’s clearly repulsed by me, she’s only being polite, I’m misreading the signals” This apparently unending stream of reinforcement will only serves to perpetuate a vicious cycle; your self-limiting beliefs cause you to overlook evidence to the contrary, thus reinforcing the belief which, in turn, continues to make it impossible to see the truth. Believing in yourself – that you’re attractive, that you have a lot to offer others, that you can you.
Your negative attitude will seep into Breaking negativity can be difficult; it takes time and effort to willfully decide to take a positive attitude and belief and stick to it. Just ask yourself: would you rather a world where everything confirms your worst fears or your fondest fantasies?
Not because it’s notice or pay heed to that which confirms your pre-existing belief.
If you believe no woman could possibly find you attractive, you will elide over all evidence to the contrary – women flirting with you, giving you the “come-hither” stare or even just smiling at you – and focus like a laser on every incidence of negativity.