Inter-caste marriages, inter-state marriages in India and at the global level, international marriages have come to stay, and they will be transforming the world and the way we perceive countries and cultures at a faster rate than we imagine. It is true that men dominate the ‘top’ of society, but gradually they have started to represent the ´bottom´ of society as well.When we see the gathering of world leaders, EU leaders and especially leaders of Asian countries on TV, you see men overrepresented, and then we tend to erroneously conclude that men still dominate the world as they did some 50 years ago. They are doing the dirty, dangerous and difficult jobs, dying significantly earlier than women.I have every reason to believe that just as the marginalized European men want to show solidarity towards Asian women, who are still marginalized, paradoxically it is the women at the top who will eventually do something to improve a lot of men who are racing to the bottom of society.Mind the gap will try to analyse events in India seen from a Scandinavian perspective.Whereas men in western countries are increasingly finding themselves rejected and unable to fit into this role where you have to try a lot of dating without much success, the easy way out is, of course, to look for a wife from abroad.
The magazine The Economist published an article on 3rd September this year with the title, “I don´t”, describing how most Japanese who want to get married find it hard to accomplish their goal.In 1950, interracial marriage was illegal in 29 states in the US. Interracial and international marriages are on the rise.It is not only Asian men but also Western men who want to marry Asian women. Statistics also shows that the marriages of Danish, Swedish and Norwegian men marrying Thai or Indian women tend to last longer than those of Indian men marrying Danish, Swedish or Norwegian wives. In this changing sociological scenario, I feel at ease.When Hanna Rosin wrote an excellent article six years ago, “The End of Men”, in The Atlantic, people thought it was an exaggeration.I read the article when it was published then and when I read the article today, it not only reflects the new development in American society but the European as well.Why should a Danish bus driver not get an Indian wife when he is willing to cook food and ready to learn a new language and, most of all, willing to accept her for her original skin color?He said, “You know what, I love the brown color, it is the best color”.Is my bus driver friend right in saying that more and more women are taking an education?Well, this may be entirely true of many prosperous western countries.Men at the top are not interested in helping the men at the bottom.The paradox is that Hanna Rosin is a woman, so is Christina Hoff Sommers who wrote a piece in 2000, again in The Atlantic, “The war against Boys” to explain that girls are thriving in schools and boys are not.