But it's more likely that "I'm too tired" is an excuse to avoid sex.
Being chronically out of energy can trigger a sex drive dip, so ask your doctor to check your thyroid levels and test you for anemia, says Mc Grath.
And what's sexier to a man than a woman who knows what she wants in bed?
Myth 3: Your body isn't sexual once you enter perimenopause.
"It's hard to know exactly when you'll stop ovulating, even if you're in the middle of perimenopause," says Dr. "To check when you can skip protection, your doctor can do a blood test." The level of follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) in your blood canreveal whether you're still fertile, but levels fluctuate during perimenopause, so even a low FSH level may be misleading. Menopause isn't official until you've gone a full year without a period, says Mc Grath. You still have to protect against sexually transmitted diseases, so use condoms until you're sure about your partner's past.
Myth 6: It's normal for sex drive to drop as you age. "It's more likely for younger women to experience dips in libido," says Mc Grath, probably thanks to the hormonal upheavals of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and dealing with young children.
"We silently believe that only young people have sex," says Maureen Mc Grath, RN, a sex-health educator and radio host. Here, eight myths we're happy to dispel for you.without sex; it's not food or water."What you lack in firmness you more than make up in humor, compassion and experience.Plus, you know your body better than you ever did in your 20s." All those years living in your skin has taught you what turns you on that you just didn't know two decades ago.Forty may be the new 30, but considering the misconceptions about women's sexuality and desirability after a "certain age," you'd think 40 was the new 80!Whether you blame advertising portrayals of what's "sexy" (Victoria's Secret models, anyone?And look on the bright side: This can be a time of experimentation and freedom with sex that you didn't have when young kids were underfoot."Introduce a vibrator, experiment with self-stimulation, try new positions," suggests Mc Grath. Truth: This one persists for good reason—it makes sense that you'd be more worn-out now than you were 20 years ago.Even though I knew that they had lived together for several years before getting married, I never thought of them as being hypocritical, but rather I believed they did their best to keep me from making the same mistakes that they had made in their youth. In response to the many warnings about premarital sex from my church, parents, and elsewhere, I embraced an extreme: I restricted my dating life to a handful of guys in college and beyond, and I even decided to refrain from kissing the man who'd become my husband until our wedding day.We were dating for almost exactly a year before we got engaged, and we were engaged for five months before we got married.Myth 5: You don't have to worry about birth control.Truth: Tell that to the legion of late-life moms toting their beloved "oops" babies!