These men, who feel that they've made a gigantic effort to be caring and sensitive to their wives, get no credit whatsoever for their sizeable contribution to the family.They feel under enormous pressure to improve their financial support, improve the way they raise their children, and improve the way they treat their wives.Very few men, these days, feel that they have learned to become the husbands that their wives have wanted, and the job seems to be getting more and more difficult.Men's perceived failure to satisfy their wives is punctuated by the fact that women file for divorce twice as often as men.Instead, they expect efforts in a different direction.It isn't more difficult to please women these days, it simply requires a change in the priority of effort. They want a soul mate, someone they trust who is there for them when they have a problem, who takes their feelings into account when decisions are being made. I use a house as an illustration to help husbands understand how their wives feel.But neglect is a much tougher sell, and it is also much more difficult to overcome than abuse.While it is the most important reason women leave men, it is hard to convince men that it is a legitimate reason, something they should avoid at all costs.
These include both emotional abandonment and physical abandonment.
They often complain about their marriages to their closest friends and sometimes to anyone who will listen. What bothers them so much about marriage that most are willing to risk their families' future to escape it? Each day I am confronted by women who are extremely frustrated with their marriages.
And they also file for divorce twice as often as men. They usually express no hope that their husbands will ever understand what it is that frustrates them, let alone change enough to solve the problem.
I have little trouble convincing most men that verbal and physical abuse are legitimate reasons for their wives to leave.
And there has been increasing social pressure on men lately to avoid hurting their wives physically and verbally, which makes my job even easier.